Pupil dilation for sexual tension

Background Info: Pupils dilate when we have a broad focus and when we’re in dark, because less light hits the eye.
Dilated pupils = Sign of mutual liking
In general, we tend to like people that *genuinely* like us – so this is powerful and subtle at the same time!

To have an intense gaze to build massive amounts of sexual tension, do this:

1. Dilate your pupils
   - soft gaze instead of hard focus, extend vision to a broad area instead of fixed point
2. Look between eyes
   - don’t switch eyes you look at
   - rather look at the point between her eyes, above nose
3. Look “behind” her
   - don’t focus *on* her
   - instead focus on a point slightly behind her head, as if looking through her –> huge impact!

Do this three things –> immense sexual tension!

Rudyard Kipling – If

Rudyard Kipling – If (1910)

 

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you.
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting.
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:

 

If you can dream -and not make dreams your master
If you can think -and not make thoughts your aim
If you can meet Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools.
Or watch the things you gave your life to broken,
And stoop and build’em up with worn-out tools:

 

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: “Hold on!”

 

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings -nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute,
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run.
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And -which is more- you’ll be a Man, my son!

S: October Man by Intense (in10se)

Basic outline:

1. Elicit a state/identity/body sensation
2. Turn it into a symbol
3. Manipulate the symbol
4. Link it to you

Chapter 1 – What it can do- associate you w/ her sexual identity:
- at age of 2-3, we become conscious that we’re individual, later we build relationships with others, this is formative to sexual identity, forming beliefs, behaviour, what we search in partner
- this identity can be changed with intent

- intent: focus (law of attraction) and force behind – will.
- sense the flow of energy in interactions (intent), stronger intent wins
- focus and will (=intent) of others can be influenced (distraction, surprise…)
- demonstrate and exercise own will and focus (wrestle the angel)

- layers of the brain (onion) - more and less visible and accessible – profound and superficial (can conflict!)
- inner layers were built in childhood – when you change something there the “new” person will change automatically
- e.g. “What would the child in you say/do to this?”, “What would your inner child say to the you of today?”
- if you presuppose something, it can be evoked through that (e.g. that she is a nympho)
- when new person looks back to child it once was – reality begins to change (understanding mentally, then feeling)
- Imagination –> Emotions –> Physical feelings (Lead the body, mind will follow, not vice versa)
- ex. smoking (no one quits because he knows it’s unhealthy) –> when the layers conflict, people follow the physical feelings, then the emotions, and then the logic (they later rationalize)
- “To get someone to give in to a craving, amplify the craving and get them fully immersed in the moment.”

- People:
- one part of the mind is parent/career person/friend etc. –> roles
- we see reflections of these in others

- Places:
- parts of us in places of mind: quiet place, secret place (guilty pleasure example p.18)
- by naming it, talking about it, it becomes more and more real!

Creating new parts, layers and places is a big part of Octoberman!

- Who can do it?
- those with strong frame (=inner game), consists of Identity, Beliefs, Attitudes = MINDSET
- 7 Beliefs: (also Identity)

1. This is the best thing she will ever experience in her life.
2. No other person can give her this kind of experience the way I can.
3. I can do this.
4. It works behind any doubt, hesitation or question.
5. She will think that both me and what I am doing is amazing.
6. It is normal for me to give a woman this kind of experience.
7. Given the time, place and situation, I will be able to do this and evoke unbeliefable results in any women I want to, and I do it without apology, hesitation or question.

- integrate Touch, Language and Visualization into seamless flow of Connection and Intent

- Shared Trance

- Where to do it
- with, not on someone
- quiet place, no competition for persons focus
- Trance, Hypnosis:

1. Focusing
2. Suspending the critical factor
3. Leading

- suspending the critical factor: strong frame, authority, teacher
- bypassing it alltogether, speaking through imagery and visualization
- “help relieve stress”/”enhance sex”
- What-If-Frame: “What if you could feel absolutely amazing – a massage like you’ve never been able to feel before, even better than sex… If you could feel this and if I could help you feel this, is this something that you want to do?”
- Role-Play (pimp-ho / doctor-nurse / stripper-customer)
- overcome critical factor by bypassing it, speaking through imagery and visualization:
evoke feeling, link it to energy, then manipulate the energy, shared visualization!
move, intensify enery (and thus indirectly the feeling behind), –> feeling becomes alive of its own

- When to do it
- irrelevant as long as 3 things are in plac:

1. A strong frame by the persuader, who clearly leads
2. Connection or some sense of rapport or identification
3. Suspension of the critical factor in the person being persuaded, who clearly follows

- mostly 1 or 2 comes first, 3 is cult-like behaviour

Chapter 2 – it starts with you

- interactions are determined by frames (=meta-frames=meta-programs), which are roles (leader/follower) –> take the role which serves you
- Pieces of the puzzle

1. Practice (everytime possible)
2. Natural talent helps at the beginning
3. Mentor

- Crucial success factor: Choose frame in every situation!
- use intent to define goals and needed actions –> always know why you’re doing what you’re doing!
- “Clear actions come from clear purpose and focus in the moment.”
- Put value on you and your reactions:
“Jump!” –> “How high?” no value
–> “Why should I, what’s in it for me?” right
- overtly or covertly subcommunicate: “I know you want me to do this or that, but that doesn’t work for me, what can you do for me?”
- set your own value –> higher value is attractive

- Authority (e.g. in a subject) conveys value
- Become authority in own life by taking back power
- Ask people to do small things for you, reward them accordingly
- some can get into “command train” (busy fullfilling new commands before old is done, not objecting –> critical factor is suspended)
- “Gradient principle”: start asking for something small, then escalate
—> always reward people when on command train
- When people are on your command train, you gain value –> authority –> attractiveness –> value (positive feedback loop=hyperempiric loop)

Key points of hypnosis to remember:

1. Focus
2. Suspension of critical factor = judgement
3. Leading with a strong intent = Leader & Follower

Thats about frames, next thing is creating responsiveness of follower
- responsiveness = openness, receptivity
- people move toward pleasure and away from pain –> motivation by stating an action with these two aspects
- to connect with someone, evoke “secret” pain by coldreading etc.
- “If I look at you sometimes, underneath all the smiles I can see something else. You might not even be aware of it. In your eyes there’s a deep pain that’s never quite healed. In fact when you’re alone you probably feel this pain and you might be right at the point of uncovering where it came from, but at other times it may just break through and make you sad without knowing why. At some point in your life, your heart was broken – and it shows… I can put my hand right here on your chest (as you do it) and I can feel your wounded heart chakra, I can feel your pain… Tell me about it…”

- then immediately evoke pleasure (transition)
- “It’s getting kind of heavy in here – let’s talk about fun stuff… If you could be doing anything right now, what would you be doing? What is it about this that you enjoy? What does it feel like when you do this?”
- When connecting to only pleaure, you’re viewed as superficial, only pain = negative as pain itself, both = solution to a problem
- Physical responsiveness: open, engaging, in the moment people, need touch
- Emotional responsiveness: sentimental, withdrawn, thoughtful, love art, need emotional connection to open up, sense of attachment and belonging

Chapter 3 – background and foundational understanding
- Maps
The map is not the territory. Expansive vs. restrictive thinking. Prove new things to be valid/invalid for you, build your map like this.
- Intent
Focus + Will
Focus: based on interal perception, Will motivates external action.
- The Unconscious
90% (vs. 10% conscious)
Conscious thinks, unconscious proves what you think through distortion and deletion (filtering)
Unc. expresses in symbols, works with visualization, handles automatic actions (walking etc.)
Automatic behaviours can be become aware of consciously, changed, and conditioned (21 days)
- Symbols
What means something? Last one thing = end value (eg. money = security)
Eg. Orgasm, give color, make it brighter, move it in your body and out, intensify as you breathe = Symbolic Morphology
- Regression
bonding period – we bond with the person that causes us to go back to the bonding period
let them talk about childhood, behave like kids, nurture them, when they open up reward them emotionally and physically
give them self-image to life up to!
- Sexual Conditioning
when two things commonly occur at the same time, the appearance of one will bring the other to mind
normalize the behaviours, 21 times repetition, constant exposure in a non-threatening way
motivation: may be experimentation, reward and punishment
stimulus-response patterning: stimulus always has to be the same! first use it always in the same situation, until target is used to it, then use it also in general situations
habituation: when pattern becomes automatism

- Huna/Lomi-Lomi:
synesthesia of seeing mental images, hearing voice and touch
symbolize energy: have target describe it in detail, where in the body it’s located, have them imagine the situation when they were sensing it (don’t have to tell) –> have it turned in color energy (see color, feel heat, hear buzzing…)
move it around: energy becomes more intense, feeling up whole body, concentrate it on erogene zones (chest, breasts, inner arms and legs, face, stomach)
“now you can notice how when I touch you here the energy glides along the surface of your skin leaving traces of these amazing feelings like waves rippling to you – and how as I press deeper, the feelings penetrate you even deeper, filling you up inside you, moving inside you…”
fractionation: take person in and out of state thus intensifying it
“now notice what it feels like as I take this energy out of you, taking it into my hand…” (move hand away from chest)
have them take a deep breath and “now notice how as you take a deep breath I put this energy back inside you and it goes even deeper, becoming even more intense, filling you up even more… touching you now in the deepest places inside you… what does this feel like?”
“good… take a deep breath in and now notice how I can put my hand right here on your chest and start to move and chin this energy… as I move my hands over you, it spreads with every touch, like waves of pleasure pulsating through you…”
again move hands through erogenous zones
move energy in circle behind their back, let it flow in own arms, have them reach around own back to get it back
or: chest to chest, breath in to take it, they breath in to take it and let it go when breathing out

- Magick:
focus on something, intent=focus and will
train both through daily goals + focus point

Chapter 4: Visualization and other exercises

- Beliefs:

1. Energy is real
2. Energy flows where attention goes
3. You can use symbols
4. SHARED energy visualization enhances the effect of it
5. You can feel, see and touch energy

- Exercise 1:
- think of favourite thing
- assign color, turn it into fireball holding in hand in front of face
- manipulate, let it pulsate, change size, take it into chest and out
- send it to someone, notice reactions

- Exercise 2:
- have other person imagine energy
- sense it the hand holding above chest

Importance of touch
like story: introduction (touch at hands, arms), middle (sexual tension, kissing –> amplify what partner gives you), tension building (thighs, shoulders, neck, fingers through hair, stomach)

Gaze
look when talking about normal subject with thoughts of extreme pleasure

Basic Symbolic Morphology

1.  Elicit what the person loves most in the world
2. Turn it into a symbol “Now if you were to take all the feelings that you have for this thing/person/experience and give it a color/symbol, what would it be?”
3. Manipulate, morph the symbol –> Make it grow big, make it concentrate on point of light, move it through persons body
4. Actually touch them as you move it everywhere that you touch through their body
5. Deepen the state, Fractionate –> Move the symbol in and out of their chest, take it away – give it back, link the giving to their receiving by them taking it in with a deep breath so that they are active participants in both the guided imagery and the physical experience of it. When taking it out, make them exhale it.
6. Link the symbol/object to YOU –> take the energy into you & your hands, give it back through them by touching w/ hands/even lips
7. Escalate physical touch

Examples
- Attraction Rose: Ask: When attracted, how does it feel like, where do you feel it –> make it symbol, take it etc.
- Pool: Send feeling in imaginery pool, let them swim into it, swirl around them…

Chapter 5 – Bringing all the Elements together

- if you ask sb about an experience (also imagined ones!), they get into that, feel those feelings –> state elicitation
- What’s the greatest X (experience, emotion) that you love most? What about X do you love most? –> Y What’s it like if you have them?
- Symbolizing: Close your eyes and imagine:
If you had this feeling right now, what color would it have?
Where do you feel it in your body
Warm/cold/hot?
Moving? How?
–> Symbolizing through Synesthesia
- Manipulate the symbol
amp ip up, make it grow, intensify colors, brighten, make it faster/slower, move through the body
- Fractionation
have them inhale to take the symbol, exhale to give it to you, thus taking them in and out of the state rapidly
say: Now notice how you feel it like here (put hand where they say they felt it) and how I can move it through your body with my hand! (move hand) And how you exhale it to give it to me… And when you inhale it back now the feeling gets even more intense!
do it until they keep eyes closed
touch first in non-obtrusive places, escalate, calibrate –> if they open their eyes, make them visualize the symbol in your hands. As you give it back, say: “Now close your eyes and as you take a deep breath in  as you take in all these feelings and feel them even deeper inside you.”
- Link symbol to you
take symbol out of partner, put in into your hands, touch them everywhere you want the energy to go
and/or
left-eye to left-eye connection: imagine energy cycling back and forth in your eyes
and/or
let your partner imagine an ideal place with complete ecstasy and YOU there holding the symbol in your hands
or
let them imagine bubble with safety, pleasure and warmth and YOU inside, exchanging the energy and everything outside cold, stressing, enemies
–> you can also link it to action (you feel the feeling getting stronger as you unbutton your clothes) or touching you!

- Elicit trauma
also elicit traumatic experience (worst memory from childhood etc.), just make them remember it, not describe it in detail, make them hold it 6 inches away from chest, take their hands and say ” let’s throw this negative energy away in the air …. NOW!” –> use it with bubble: pleasure and you inside, trauma outside

Creating the OCTOBERMAN – A new Sexual Identity
Imagine the type of person you want your partner to become, then work with THIS person (believe they are it already), let them visualize these aspects –> they’ll create a new Identity with you linked to it!

3-Step Approach

1. Approach using pacing (describe her state, make the approach more soft, for example when interrupting her: “I know you’re enjoying your xy etc. but I have to ask you…”
2. Ask her a question
3. Listen and respond (feed it back)

Nonverbal IOIs

Nonverbal body language IOIs from women to look for upon approach:

1. Playing with her hair
2. Touching jewelry
3. Adjusting her clothing
4. Changing posture
5. Turning body towards you
6. Tilting head
7. Smiling
8. Licking her lips
9. Propelling chest
10. Alert, energetic
11. Dilating pupil
12. Gradually opening posture
13. Touching Self gently
14. Caressing objects
15. Crossing and uncrossing legs
16. Flashing palm
17. Leaning forward

If you get about three of them, it’s a sign that she’d like to get to know you i.e. you can get a date.

Summary: 26’s Game Plan

First thing I’m presenting here is The Game Plan from Twentysix, an RSD PUA.

Simple: 6h/week sarging to constantly improve

1. Mindset: use only opener, kind of takes pressure (any opener: hi/opinion opener…)
2. 3s Rule
3. approach HBs and UGs as it’s about training, you’re at least talking to girl

Do report end of the week (feel free to post comments to this blog)

1. Post 5 positive things you learned in PU this week
2. Write 3 other things besides PU down (career, books, workout, course, anything)

Use ASF, take a method (Mystery/Juggler/…)

No negative stuff during sarging, just have a good time, party! Don’t get pissed. Afterwards analyse. What could you have done better etc.?

Self-Talk: Talk to yourself like you’re a friend of yourself. Note: Don’t beat yourself up, like you were shit. Then you’ll have no problem going out being proud of yourself.

Repetition is the mother of skill!

Focus on what you want, not what you don’t want.

Internal game is key (CONFIDENCE), don’t just look for the quick fix (routines etc.). Don’t mind rejection.

Go for what you want, no matter what. Don’t think you need more money/car etc. to be able to get her first.

Get in a talkactive mood, talk to chicks on the street, in the club, to everyone, ask how they’re doing, anything… Smile, have a positive attitude.